Let's see....2 of Republicans biggest "montras"
1. Sanctity of marriage between man and woman
2. Homosexuality is wrong.
Ever notice that 98% of the time a politician is outed like that, they turn out to be a Republican?
I think you meant: "mantras"? As in chants that are repeated endlessly in hopes of some sort of divine recognition.... Seriously, not "taking you to task" - it might have been a typo. But these days I'm constantly being exposed to new words I hadn't heard before and, if this is one, I'd like to know more about it.
Now as to the numbered items:
You're right, y'know! I fail the Stereotypical Republican test in that I have no problem over two men or two women exchanging vows that legally unite them under state law and entitle them to the same benefits and responsibilities accorded those in opposite-sex unions. Nor do I have any trouble in their being religiously married provided that's OK with the religion of their choice. I would be troubled by government telling any member of the clergy that they HAVE to perform same-sex marriages.
Whaddya call that? Libertarian?
I also have no trouble accepting polygamy (either way) so long as it's not required of anyone and the partners are all willingly involved.
Homosexuality? Among the willing, fine with me so long as they don't "do it in the road"...something I'd also expect conventional couples not to do. Combining the two points of contention, I think it'd be a good thing if there were more same-sex marriages. Fewer children to overcrowd the schools, drive cars to jam the streets, etc. Which raises a side issue: I come down on the side of allowing same-sex couples to adopt if they're prepared to offer a loving home in all the conventional senses. BUT I would not want to see same-sex couples contracting out the conception of "purpose-built" children. We have too damn many kids already!
Lest we loose track of the 'outing'!
I think there are more closeted Republicans, due to their religious and traditional affilliations, thatn there are Democrats. It's not unusual for a Democrat to be divorced and get elected. They generally make no secret of it. It's possible for an openly gay Democrat to get elected; there is no reason to make a secret of it.
For hide-bound Republicans it's a different story. Do I think there are more homosexual Democrats than Republicans? No. If Republicans would hold their own to the same standards Democrats expect of their own there would be far fewer "outted" Republicans. I mean, how to you "out" someone who is already out?
Republicans are repressed; they need our sympathy rather than our scorn.